Sometime late last year, I commented to my bride that I wanted to make a positive change in my life. Why I came to such a decision is a bit puzzling, since there had been no life-altering incidents in our lives to spark such a thing. It just felt right. Consequently, my resolution was equally low-drama. I simply decided that from then on, I wouldn’t miss an opportunity to say something positive to whomever I might be talking to.
I didn’t intend to go out of my way to find things to say, or new and different people with whom to talk. My goal, if it could be boiled down to such a word, was simply to take advantage of those chances which came along to make a positive remark.
It’s been seven or eight months since I made that modest resolution. My life hasn’t changed. I haven’t fallen into sudden new wealth or discovered a horde of new friends. But what I have noticed is a subtle change in myself.
I’m a little happier.
Not that I’ve ever been a mopey sort, but I’m not blessed with the deepest smile lines either. (My sweet wife boils that concept down to its essence as “eye crinkles.” I love that expression and all it portends.)
So, here’s a thought to anyone seeking to allow a little more sunshine into their world: the next time you have the opportunity to talk to someone — friend, stranger, relative, whomever — find something nice to say. If you can’t say it about them, say it about the weather, or the future, or anything else that comes to mind. But say it.
Oh, and it helps tremendously if you mean it.